Hi Phoenix! So, your little merry-go-round is still spinning, 'eh!? I know how it feels, my friend. I guess mixed signals are better than negative ones, so, as you say, stay with the ride, and just try and be patient (unlike I was).
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Some days I would like to write a book about how this goes, unfortunately most people wouldn't believe it was real. I kind of feel like Job some days. Wish me a good week, I could sure use some positive these days. Catch you in the morning.
I know how you feel, Phoenix. The worse part is that even if she finally comes around, you will still have doubts, fears, mistrust, etc. for a long time.
Sorry, not much positive there, is there? All I can say is, be strong within yourself, have faith that things will work out no matter what. You cannot control her or make her happy. You can only control yourself, and choose to do the right thing and be happy with that choice.
Stay the course, as I know you will anyway.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
The positives seem to be more frequent these days, even got a "good morning". I'm not sure what to think till we have a good R talk and she let's me know where she's at mentally these days. My hunch is she's coming around to her old self, has seen that it's better for all concerned if we do our work and solve what's wrong. Thankfully I think she has seen that if she truely believes in what she professes, she has to make the changes to be right with the Lord. I am proud to say I think she is making that move.
Awesome news, Phoenix! I will be thinking of you this weekend.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
It's funny how I've learned more about PMA and what really counts since going through this. Of course seeing how committed I am to this R is amazing also, but I guess I was really never really good at taking a hint. So far that seems to be a positive thing. Maybe it's not a matter of taking a hint, but a matter on being focused on what really counts.
Yeah, I agree. Focus on the good, try and take it one step at a time, and re-evaluate every few weeks. Sometimes, it's the perspective of time that shows you the improvements. Thinking of ya, Phoenix!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
I hear you, Phoenix. I also feel like my life has taken on certain aspects of a soap opera. It's like one long, continuing saga. It helps, I think, to keep a sense of humour, and to not take things too seriously.
What helps me, is to have a plan, so that no matter what happens in my personal life, I will still have something to look forward to, something that interests me and is outside my emotional life. For instance, I am going to continue studying in the fall. I have also taken to meeting new people, and keeping up contact with friends and family. I had let this fall by the wayside because I didn't think anyone would be interested in me and my problems. I find, however, that listening to others, and taking an interest in their lives, somehow helps me put a different perspective on my own life.
Not sure if my rambling has helped you any, but sure hope you had a nice weekend. We had a really good lesson on the temple in Sunday school, and one of the talks was about faith, and the woman talked about taking some steps into the dark in order to see the light - it kinda spoke to me and what I am experiencing right now. I feel like that's what I do sometimes in order to relearn the trust I had for my H. I told him the other day, that moving away to a new place with him, was like jumping into a dark abyss, and I just hope that he's there to catch me. He promised he would always be there to do so. I hope and pray that he means it and will follow through.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Wife is opening up quite a bit to me in a lot of ways, talking, activities, etc. However some things are very far from solved. Some of our problem seems to be MLC related, but I think she is starting to question her own actions. When she brought it up it was all I could do just to validate and leave it alone, but I did. It sounds like you have a pretty good handle on how to proceed in your sitch. I'll have to keep this short for now. Have a good evening.
