I don't know if it was really a backslide, but I had to voice a few of my concerns this morning. It went fairly well, I got a few things off of my chest and wife let me know a few of her feelings on things. Life has been insane lately on top of the R/M issue. Some times I've want to just wimp out and put some miles or dirt between me and the issues.
As for the M at T. Wait till you've done all the right things, the way your suppose to do it, I mean textbook and it all comes back in your face. I guess there's a little peace knowing I have done things right, but obviously not perfect if I'm here. In some ways it has helped since a lot of people expect us to fight to keep it going. W has definately had to rethink a few times since all her family and relatives would think much on a D. They also know me quite well and that would put the focus back on her.
As for your sitch, I hope things would go better for you. One things that bothers me is the incredible amount of anger or need for payback. To me that would seem to destroy any possibility for reconciliation. If you did something wrong and someone had that sort of attitude towards you, even though you knew you were wrong, you wouldn't be likely to work on fixing things. The fact that H seems to say "No" but do "Yes" has my attention. I think he wants to do "Yes" but doesn't know if he has the strength, so he says "No".
Perhaps I would say mellow out, detach a little (180) and let's see what happens. Since you have pretty much written it off, maybe it's time to truly step back and let him do some work and show some colours. I guess my feelings would be if he really didn't want to work things out why would he bother doing the "Yes" stuff. Let's see what happens.
