I'm still trying to figure out where I belong here. So far I think I'll stay with Piecing just because the group seems more positive and less "damage control". Right now I'm trying to figure out how to get us off of "comfortably numb". At this point this seems to be the wife's answer to how to deal with the sitch. She doesn't want to fix things, but she doesn't want to ruin other peoples lives.
I know DB wise I should be going dark, GAL, drop the rope, etc., but that would give the appearance of me wanting out of the R. This is exactly what she wants. She wants me to leave, that way she gets kids, house ... and I look like the bad guy. No one other than me, her and the OM and his wife know any better. She will get all the acholades of being a diligent mother, left with the kids, and of course I would look like I couldn't handle married life or fatherhood.
So how do I proceed. Up to this point I have just stayed diligent, tried to remain loving and keep up my end of the marriage. This however does not seem to make her too happy. However at this point I keep thinking, "tough", I owe this to me and the kids. I'm not going to let her drag me down.
Well if anyone has suggestions, don't be afraid to speak up. Just another day in paradise.
