Let me say something here real quick...a LOT of Newcomers feel they don't belong in Piecing until they have reconciled...wrong answer Newcomers is for learning the basics...picking up DB/DR for the first time, setting goals, learning to GAL and to quit scurrying down cheeseless tunnels and dropping ropes. Piecing is to keep those things going...it is where the old-timers hang out and keep themselves motivated You flesh your basic skills out here and stay on track. If you reach reconcilliation you might stay around a little bit longer but you eventually leave...it is where you come back to when you fall off the wagon I think I came here right before H and I reconciled...I believe I felt at the time that there were more positives happening then negatives (plus it was suggested that I move ...lol).
ANyway...WELCOME!
Valentine's day...eeeeeewwww! I have a slight aversion to it now. On H and I's second V-day together he decided it was time we got married...we married 2 weeks later. Two years ago he started withdrawing on V'day and by our anniversary were barely talking. A week later he couldn't even look at me or be in the same room with me...a few more days and he dropped the ILYBINILWY bomb and it went to hell quickly afterwards Now, I get REALLY tense starting around V'day and it doesn't dissipate until the end of March (and we had a good V'day/anniversary last year...except for the whole RING debacle )
You are the best gauge of the mood your W would be in. If you want to give her a card then do so without being overly gushy about it. Try to keep things as simple as possible. LISTEN to what she says about the holiday if it comes up....does she sound wistful or irritable about it? Instead of a dozen Red roses would a bouquet of wildflowers be more suitable (women have differnet meanings for different flowers received...at least the women I know do). Would an addition to a collection be something she would accept now?
Like I said on another thread...if you are a "giver" by nature then you should fulfill that need in yourself but keep it simple and somewhat ambivilant in meaning and don't EXPECT or demand and gratitude in return. You are getting your pleasure from the act of giving and nothing more
Regards, Zoo
"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm."
- Mahatma Gandhi
Newcomers is for learning the basics...picking up DB/DR for the first time, setting goals, learning to GAL and to quit scurrying down cheeseless tunnels and dropping ropes. Piecing is to keep those things going...it is where the old-timers hang out and keep themselves motivated 
I think I came here right before H and I reconciled...I believe I felt at the time that there were more positives happening then negatives (plus it was suggested that I move ...lol).
Now, I get REALLY tense starting around V'day and it doesn't dissipate until the end of March (and we had a good V'day/anniversary last year...except for the whole RING debacle 
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