Oh grief! Valentine's Day! I wonder if my H will do anything this year. We went out to dinner last year, and I got some flowers (I love flowers), and that was a month before the OW came on the scene. So much has happened since then, I feel like I live on another planet.
Perhaps you should give your W something that she can enjoy by herself - i.e. a day at the spa. In our happier days, that's what my H gave me for my 40th birthday, and I loved it. I felt so spoilt.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim