allrightboy wrote --------- I know that our marriage will not improve until that issue is settled. --------- Spot on, bingo. In the meantime do things for yourself so you stay sane, some what happy, and attached to your W / family as seems appropriate.
I posted the links so you can see the variety of feelings females have. Trouble is your W is the only other player in this game you can play with unless you want more confusion in your M by involving someone else.
I read about other females to guage if my perceptions match what my W is telling me what is normal. W says X-Y is normal, I say, to you X-Y is normal and I understand that W, BUT I know that 80% of the women your age say X alone is what they like. So you can't say I am abnormal for likeing X. If you like X-Y that is OK with me most of the time. I use what I read to avoid being made to feel strange.
