Jen, Maybe the time in the hospital and the treatment for depression will be the trigger that brings H back to the guy you used to know.
I just know that you have asked a lot of the same questions that I have wondered about....basically, how does one go on knowing what you know???
Whatever you do, don't make any hasty decisions. As hard as it is to believe, time IS on your side. Time not only heals, but it also puts distance from the pain and allows you to evaluate your feelings when the pain is not so sharp.
Unfortunately you are also an officer's wife which comes with its own set of baggage. Unlike civilian life, H's affair will probably not just be swept under the rug which will add yet another burden on your marriage.
Just take the time you need to sort through your feelings. Hopefully, through H's treatment, there will also come a time when you can have a heart-to-heart talk with H about what went wrong, can you go on, do either of you want to continue, is the marriage worth saving?
