Quote: Since I was last here my H has been hospitalized.
Are you saying he's been hospitalized for depression?
Quote: Once again, I am in the position of helping him when he is the one who has done this.
Jen, if indeed your H has been hosptialized for depression, then there is nothing you can do to help him. All you can do right now is be supportive of him, but he's got to deal with this on his own.
Quote: Maybe it is my inablility to trust right now that makes me think that this is just a scheme so that he can be excused from the difficult work of rebuilding a marriage.
Jen, I want you to take a good, hard look at this statement. Do you really think your H, or anyone else, would get themselves so worked up as to be hospitalized just as a way to get out of working on a M? Most people would just run to the bar, or an OW/M, or their F's, or their job! C'mon, Jen, I know it's hard, but get a grip here (you answered your own question, btw).
Of course you are frustrated, exhausted, confused and scared. Who wouldn't be? It's all natural. But remember, just b/c we have an emotion doesn't mean that we have to ACT on them. You have a choice about your behavior. It will be alright. Eat a decent meal, get a good night's sleep, and you'll feel better about things in the morning, okay?
Take care of YOU! Let H and the hospital take care of H!
