Thanks for stopping by my thread....there usually seems to be a kindred bond with other military wives, especially officer wives. You talk about H losing his job...is it because of the A? My H has been retired for a few years now, but I know when he was in that fraterinization was taboo. I do hope for your sake that his job (and rank) can be saved.
I can only hope to be in your shoes someday and have H come home. But, don't expect yourself to be dancing in the streets just because he is home. You need to stay true to yourself and not just hold the marriage together because it is the "right' thing to do do. On the other hand, make very, very sure that you are not withholding your feelings from H as a way to "punish" him for his mistakes.