Were Back Together... Now What!!

[Nevanna]

Don't you ever get tired of feelings so confused?

LOL! Yes, I do.

I now he feels me withdrawing, but right now I feel like I just want some space.

Doesn't this sound familiar? I'm not saying it to be mean--just that this is a good opportunity to understand why your H may have felt the way he did, and why backing off works so well.

I went through a period where I withdrew. I really, really, had to think about things. I had to decide, on my own, that I was staying because I wanted to--not because it's what I was supposed to do, or because I was obligated.

Take some time for yourself. Seriously. When you are ready, you'll be able to open up again. I think all of us who have been in piecing for awhile will tell you that they've felt this way before. And it's just part of the cycle...

I can also tell you it helped me when I stopped pressuring myself to feel "better." Here my H was being incredibly nice and understanding, and I was acting like some selfish, self-centered jerk. I hated the fact that I reminded myself of how he had acted before.

You'll feel better when you feel better.

I can also tell you that, for a couple of weeks, we actually hit a point where we felt like everything was okay. I wasn't thinking of it; he wasn't thinking of it. We had a great Christmas, and we were both really enjoying ourselves and each other again. Unfortunately...we did go back down on the roller coaster. But, my point is, with patience, I was able to get some really good time in with my H.

Not sure how much help this is. But I want you to know that I've been there. That you're saying stuff I've definately been through. I know that was the biggest relief for me--knowing I wans't crazy, and that the things I was going through, others had been through, too.