The other good thing about this is I think I had a sort of semi-conscious plan to spend some celibate time thinking about relationships and my sexuality if my relationship with my H ended. If instead I do it before the relationship is over, it might help save the relationship. Sort of analogous to my sisters comment that people always lose weight after they divorce. It was harder but more productive for me to lose it while I was still married to a man who was telling me I was too fat.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
