It's Unanimous- We both want out.

[MJontheMend]

Re drinking: what is a normal amount for him? Since you know what his typical drunk behavior is, does he have some history of alcohol abuse?

I would say he averages 3 beers a day with some variation. He might not drink a couple nights and he might have a whole 6 pack a couple nights. He can quit drinking but he usually has to substitute some other behavior, for instance he once substituted the habit of eating a pint of Ben and Jerry's every evening.

He has some sort of problem. I don't know if it is depression, alcoholism or just being an anxious, uptight PITA. Whatever you call it he displays bad short-circuit reactions to emotional AND physical discomfort. His father and his two sisters are just like him in this way. There is no way for two of them to be in the same room at the same time without either alcohol consumption or intense crabbiness resulting. They are all hypoglycemic too, so if dinner is served late at a family gathering it is an ugly thing to behold. When my one sister-in-law got married for the third time a few years ago, I couldn't keep myself from saying semi-jokingly to my new BIL "Let me give you my e-mail address so you can join the support group for current and past spouses of (my H's surname)'s.".