Quote: My first item of business under my new way of life will be to tell my H the following. "I will not have sex with you or commit to continuing in a relationship with you until you make a consistent, serious effort to make me feel like you love me and think I am a beautiful person.". I also need to tell him something like I won't wait around forever for him to do this either. I am 99% certain that this is what I should do. If anybody on the BB thinks this is a bad idea please tell me why.
I think the challenge for all of us is to find warm and loving ways to enforce our boundaries. Demands and ultimatums just don't work in the context of a loving R. It's fine to change the way you're thinking or acting, but laying down another law with H seems like just another move in the chess game of your power struggle.
