It's Unanimous- We both want out.

[MJontheMend]

I've always been the kind of person to confound sex and love. I wouldn't ML with him right now simply because you're just not in a very loving place. Before you ML with him, ask yourself what he has done lately to make you feel loved.

This is good advice. I remember being struck by a post that MrsNOP made once in which she said she orgasmed while having the thought "This man loves me.". Just because I don't need to be able to think "This man loves me." when I orgasm doesn't mean I shouldn't want to be able to think "This man loves me." when I orgasm. Maybe I should make that my new rule. For my 40th birthday I will give up allowing myself to have orgasms during which I am only able to think things like "I love sex." or "I love bodies." or " I love this man." and demand that I adhere to the higher standard of only having sex when I can think "This man loves me." and make sure the love is the active verb kind of love.

If I consider the saying "The thing you need to do to fix your relationship is the thing that is hardest for you to do." I think it makes sense for me to give chastity a try since I know it will be damn hard for me to do.