It's Unanimous- We both want out.

[MJontheMend]

I think that if you and H kept along the same path as you were going, you would be a WAW in a few yrs from now.

I know it. I told my sister last spring that I gave my marriage a 50/50 chance of lasting through the summer.

It's symbolic that everything is coming to a head on your 40th birthday.

Yeah. I'm trying to figure out how I can keep the vow I made to myself that I would get laid on my 40th bday. I am absolutely disinclined to have sex with my H even if he decides that the fact that I don't want it is making him horny. Perhaps, I should say I am disinclined to have sex with my H BECAUSE it would probably be the fact that I am disinclined that would make him horny.

Some people need the wake up call of separation/divorce to change.

I think this is true and that is why I am strongly considering joining Barney and at least sexually separating myself from my H at this juncture. I need to clear my head and figure out to what extent our problems really are about biologically low sex drive and to what extent they are about control. I guess what I'm thinking is I need to practice a little self-control in order to stop feeling like I'm allowing my H to control me. Does this make sense?