Quote: All the arguments about XXX are never really about XXX. It's about the need to polarize, the need to stake out territory, the need to be right. Not feeling safe enough to compromise.
Wow. This is good. (And not just because you agree with me. ) I need to ponder this a bunch.
SD, does your name indicate that you are lesbian? Sorry if I'm not remembering enough of your history from what you've written to already know the answer to that. If so... are you familiar with a phenomenon known as "lesbian bed death" wherein sexual activity drops way off in lesbian relationships, eventually ceasing altogether? I read up on it, seeking answers to my sitch. Anyone can go to google and put in this phrase in quotes and get info on it.
) I need to ponder this a bunch. 
