Quote: I think it's too superficial to reduce your marital crisis to "I'm HD and he's LD and for our marriage to work one or both of us will have to compromise in a way that damages our integrity."
I'm vigorously nodding. I've polarized on issues many times in my Rs. All the arguments about XXX are never really about XXX. It's about the need to polarize, the need to stake out territory, the need to be right. Not feeling safe enough to compromise.
I know that it's very easy to polarize on even the tiniest of differences. I wish I knew a surefire way to avoid it. I don't. The only thing I would know to do would be to breathe and look deeply within and ask myself what I am doing to contribute to the polarizing and what I might do to nurture a safer environment.
