I think I had the pressure cooker on so long that I didn't realize that I was preventing the very thing I was seeking--his demonstrable desire. I had to let up in order for him to be able to give it a try. BUT, I had to wait for the right time. If I had done that from the beginning he would have promptly done nothing and that would have been that.
Like you said, it was minor on my end...then a minor change on his end...etc. So imperceptible, in fact, that I hardly noticed it happening and can only see it in retrospect.
We continue to change and negotiate our relationship, but the atmosphere is much better. More like a diplomatic summit somewhere over in Europe rather than a hillbilly WWF match.
