Quote: But I just can't seem to find any amount of sexual desire for a namby pamby man who sorta wants sex but not enough to do anything about it.
I have had to explain to my H that the namby-pamby thing doesn't work ( no, I did not use those words, lol). He's told me that his "style" is different than what I need...he likes to ease his way into feeling sexual rather than going for it, which is all well and fine, but I realized that I had the "right" to want to feel turned on. The fact that he has been able to make some adjustments really has meant a lot to me...he is not just self-absorbed in what makes it work for him and my needs are now in the picture. This has had the effect of letting me back off which makes him feel less pressure. I have become content with what he is giving ( well ,more or less).
These are all such minor things, minor adjustments, yet it has taken us so long to get here.
