However, I can live with being assertively pursued. Even assertively pursued on every other day. Ok, are you getting the point that I am willing to compromise?! But I just can't seem to find any amount of sexual desire for a namby pamby man who sorta wants sex but not enough to do anything about it. In other words, I can't ditch the cultural notions that make me who I am--a female. Part of what I have learned about being a female is that men desire women. I can't UNLEARN this. In the interest of staying in a happy marriage, I have tried.
Now that I have backed off considerably, he is getting much more aggressive. I wish I had done this sooner, but I don't know that I would recommend it as a strategy to everyone--I can see that it wouldn't work with all LDH's. I am enjoying the positive change, though, and find myself 'ready' much more quickly.
