He shut me down immediately saying that there was nothing that was going to change the way he is and he has no interest in sharing "his business" with anyone.
So he's officially defined himself with that statement and put the ball back in your court.
jj: "So, you are absolutely certain that this is YOU?" H: "yes" JJ: "are you certain?" H: "yes" jj: "it really hurts me to learn this about you and I'm sorry if my response hurts you, but I don't think I can love someone who feels that way...this is a big problem. If you were willing to meet me half way on this, I'd be thrilled but it sounds like you don't want to do any work. So, in light of that, I might lose the weight and get a makeover, but there's not going to be a guarantee that it will be for you. Sleep on that for a bit...I'm going to go make a sandwich".
Seriously Jen,
I'm sorry for all this crap he's putting you through.
-dave
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
