It's Unanimous- We both want out.

[MJontheMend]

Personally, I would rather hear an honest "I am giving up because I want to" out of him than his blaming you or his sex drive for a bad choice.

I am a stickler for facing one's own responsibility. He is avoiding his.

To give him some credit, I think he's been saying this too. He told me he doesn't want to commit to having sex with me 2 or 3 times a week because then he would be anxious about sex all the time and the sex would become mechanical and unappealing. So he is making a choice, he would rather leave than experience anxious and unpleasant feelings about not wanting sex.

I feel like I've probably made some bad moves along the way. Perhaps I should have tried to be less offended by his unenthusiastic scheduled sex attempts. I can't explain but these encounters made me feel like he wasn't treating me with respect. Lack of desire in the sexual setting is one thing, but lack of respect in the sexual setting is something I'll never be HD enough to tolerate. Okay I guess I answered my own question.

The other wrong move I might have made was talking about how I've always been HD. Why should he try to be less LD if I claim that I can't be less HD? I sort of handed him the "born that way and can't change" argument on a silver platter.

I wish someone would temporarily relieve me of personal responsibility and promise me that someday soon I will be happy and sexual.