That was a gutsy thing to do, and you know how I feel about that.
I don't think your husband is a terrible guy. I do think he is frustrated at coming to terms with some necessary changes in your relationship.
You have changed, now he must. A hard fact of life.
His real issue is fear. Anyone can change if they decide to. You see all kinds of practical evidence of that on these forums.
Your dissimilar sex drives aggravate your marital issues, it may even be core to your problems, but it is certainly solvable.
Personally, I would rather hear an honest "I am giving up because I want to" out of him than his blaming you or his sex drive for a bad choice.
I am a stickler for facing one's own responsibility. He is avoiding his.
Until he decides to work at the relationship, all you can do is stand firm for your marriage and work on being a good mom to your kids.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
