I read your post and I thought "What the hell. I have nothing to lose." and I went and talked to my H about coming on the BB to look for support for himself. He shut me down immediately saying that there was nothing that was going to change the way he is and he has no interest in sharing "his business" with anyone.
I really don't think my H is a terrible person. I hope I haven't conveyed that when I come here and share my pain. I wish he would get help or help himself but I am finding that there is an obvious limit to the extent that I can push him towards change.
I'm feeling kind of cr*ppy right now. I feel profoundly LD because I'm guilty because my HD is going to end up causing a painful situation for my kids, but I don't know what more I can do if my H's position is that he won't change because he can't change. He actually told me that he is more certain now than he was 9 mos. ago that change is impossible for him.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
