Thinking of all of the things you are going to have to go through breaks my heart. I know that you have a bunch of sisters who live in the area - I hope that you can talk to them and surround yourself so that you can get the moral and physical support that you are going to need. Of course, you know that you can always come here to unburden yourself to your cyberfriends.
I'll leave with a song lyric that I would like to sing to your H:
"Well you wouldn't know a diamond if you held it in your hand. The things you think are precious I can't understand"
Reeling In The Years by Steely Dan
Take Care,
SM
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." Henry David Thoreau
