I do think our H's are rather similar. My H actually said that the reason he needs me to be perfectly groomed in order to want to have sex with me is the same reason he needs to refold the clothing after I've done it "wrong". He truly doesn't believe that there are men with standards so low that they can overlook the fact that their wife is overweight or just went to the gym or put her lipstick on crooked and still want to have sex with her.

He actually had the nerve to tell me that if I wanted any man to have sex with me as much as I wanted, I would really have to "take my game up a notch" in terms of making myself attractive. He was kind of shocked when I told him that I didn't think that was necessary because I knew that I would be happy with a man who wasn't conventionally attractive as long as he was passionate and kind. I also told him that there were plenty of men who would find me attractive just as I am (of course the only evidence I have for this currently is the pervert who groped me at the booksale last week ). Of course, telling him this was pointless because I was just telling him that he needed to doubt his taste or preferences.

"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver