Dave, I think you'll know when she is truly starting to own her sexuality. Not that you should monitor her or anything but I meant regarding the question of "are you coming to bed?".
You could sit around forever pondering what she really meant but I think when the time arrives that she really wants to own it and be sexual with you, you'll know. You will recognize it. My H is still not what you'd call a smooth operator, but he has stretched himself more in the last couple months than he has in our entire marriage. It is quite a turn on both because he's showing desire and because I love him so much and it feels so amazing to have him do something that I know is hard for him--just because he knows I need it.
My point is that I spent a lot of time analyzing whether he knew what he was saying or not (never really did figure it out) but when it was for real, I saw it and recognized it immediately.
