I'm going to guess that you are feeling a bit guilty of your behavior in SF. Separate that from the issues with your wife. Look, you didn't commit murder, you didn't sleep with anyone (right?)... your self-esteem was not at its peek, and you probably did some things you wouldn't necessarily want the W to know about, but certainly nothing that would have you committed to Death Row. There is something you need to learn about yourself from the sitch, and you'll get it. I"m not so sure it has anything to do with your wife or the state of your R, but is solely a Dave issue. I've been in that boat. Give it some thought. Talk to the shrink.
Quote: but you know me, I have never been one to tell anyone what I want
Seems to me she has something to discuss with the C then, hm?
Quote: In light of the progress we have made, I just felt compelled to post how her perception of what "initiation" is is a little bit off.
And what was that motivating force? If you are doing what you feel you need to do to address the sitch., why post it? You don't have to answer me, just think about it.
Quote: But the ownership of her sexuality hasn't even come up on the radar despite the C telling her point blank "Dave needs to see you own your sexuality".
Then you two have something to discuss with the C. Don't let her off the hook.
Sorry if I came across rather harsh today. I really can't help but think that your guilt led you to tear into your W. You handled the situation well with her lame initiation, yet you didn't mention it. You wanted to heap on her head. Which is fine. We all do that. If I am wrong, I apologize. If I'm not, just think about it so you can work with your C to put whatever demons are eating at you to rest.
