I had an epiphany this afternoon! I think I am ready to let go of my obsession over the OW. I know where she is. I even know what she looks like. I know when her husband travels, and where he works. I am one good detective - maybe I should join the police force. Ha! Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that I know as much about my enemy as I need to, so I will just keep tabs on her now and then. My H knows what my boundaries are now, and I will not tolerate another betrayal, or being treated with such disrespect - my kids don't deserve being lied to either. I am ready and able to be on my own, and I will put some things in place, so that if it happens again, I will be able to end things quickly and easily. I will now concentrate on being the best me, having fun with my kids and H, and putting OW way at the back of my mind. I will also do a check on H every now and then. If I turn up nothing, then my trust will get stronger, I hope. There are still some things I need to clear up with H before we move forward, and I will do so this weekend - mostly renegotiating our R. So, we will see where the wind blows - this is definitely his last chance - I doubt if I have much more patience.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that I know as much about my enemy as I need to, so I will just keep tabs on her now and then. My H knows what my boundaries are now, and I will not tolerate another betrayal, or being treated with such disrespect - my kids don't deserve being lied to either. I am ready and able to be on my own, and I will put some things in place, so that if it happens again, I will be able to end things quickly and easily. I will now concentrate on being the best me, having fun with my kids and H, and putting OW way at the back of my mind. I will also do a check on H every now and then. If I turn up nothing, then my trust will get stronger, I hope. There are still some things I need to clear up with H before we move forward, and I will do so this weekend - mostly renegotiating our R. So, we will see where the wind blows - this is definitely his last chance - I doubt if I have much more patience. 
