Hi BeingMe - Preserving one's sanity while a spouse is confused must be one of the most difficult thing to do I can completely understand your desire to back off emotionally, and re-group so to speak.

Just some food for thought here - one thing that NG now tells me helped him was the fact that I was consistent. Even though he felt conflicted, the fact that I was not confused helped him anchor himself. Strange, aren't they?

Wishing you a fabulous weekend. Slowly

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