Thanks for your good advice. I will be taking it very seriously. At this point, I am backing off, emotionally speaking. I am going to give it some serious thought about whether I truly want this M before I do any DB'ing. Yes, I know it's best for the children, and God hates divorce, but the turmoil it has caused in me has really caused me to question whether I want it. I'm just going to take a break, think about things, plan for being on my own, have no expectations from H (although, you mentioned actions, well, he still phones me everyday, talks to me at night, cuddles, kisses hullo and good-bye, makes me something to drink at night in bed, will come with to friends on the Easter weekend, even said he would consider going to a Retrovouille weekend which I never asked him to do, although I don't expect it will happen - could be guilt). He really does confuse me, and maybe he is confused himself. I did tell him he should consider going to a C by himself to try and sort out his feelings.
So, the merry-go-round keeps turning! Oy!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim