Wow, BeingMe...that's quite a twist. I've been on and off the bb and just now cought up with your thread. I'm going to be supportive in what you've decided. I will, however, tell you to take your time. Allow for the off chance of things turning around when it comes to your H. Just as it took him wanting the D to turn around, it might take the same for him. I often laugh (sadly) that if my H L was half the L that I had I would have been Ded for over 2 months now! I'm glad though that it took time because now we are still together. I'm not asking you to drag your feet. Keep a comfortable pace but be open for possibilities. Do give him the benefit of the doubt that you wanted so much. If it doesn't happen - it's better that now it was your choice and it will be on your terms. You went throught what he'll be going through - be gentle but be strong. I'm sorry that it had to come down to that but you're right - you deserve what you need to make you happy. And if he is not the one to give it to you....well...then it was quite a lesson after all.
