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[BeingMe]

Thanks for your comments, Zoo. I think you somehow mixed my and Phoenix' sitch, but that's okay - we have very similar experiences.

New thing in my R is that my H seems to have lost interest in sex. I think it's my fault because he usually just wants sex, so forgets about foreplay (I don't normally mind), so the other night, I asked him to make love to me, not just sex, not that there's anything wrong with just sex, but I just felt like having gentle lovemaking. Well, I think I somehow said it wrong, and he's been disinterested since. We still cuddle in bed, and hug, but no making love or even just sex. Perhaps he's sensitive about it. I told him last night, that he didn't have to, and he said he felt pressured now, so I just left it at that, and I think I won't bring it up again. I will leave initiating up to him from now on. At least, for a little while. He was always HD, whereas I was LD (now HD). I did ask him (foolishly) if there was someone else he was interested in, and that was why he had lost interest, and he emphatically denied it, so I guess I believe him. I just want to circumvent any further pain (selfishly, for myself). Won't ask that question again.

Someone said somewhere else on the bb, that once you go into the piecing side of one's new R, then you are just winging it - there are no books that can help now, but one can bounce ideas around and someone else here may've had similar experiences and give some advice on what worked for them, or didn't work for them.

Anyway, I am rambling, so will take a break.