I used to tell my H - "repeat after me: Just Say No".
I remember reading good reviews of the Haddon book, I'll have to get it.
The book that gave me the most insight into OCD is called the Boy Who Wouldn't Stop Washing by Rappaport. The book by Emily Colas is entertaining, but less educational.
I think I found her, BTW - tracked down her ex-H, anyway - and I'm thinking of sending her an email through him.
I'm with you on the exercise - I hate to admit it, but it DOES take at least 5 hours a week! And I have a tough time putting myself first, so I start the day with the best of intentions, then let other things get in the way. I would do my treadmill when I first get up but it is noisy and would wake my H (who has sleep problems) - so I guess i just really need to discipline myself to do it first thing after everyone os off to school (except D14), regardless of how many other things are clamoring for my attention.
