Yeah, yeah - I was just planning this morning how to change my thyroid dose (I'm going to finally try a T4/T3 combo since I am still having so many problems) and I am using the opportunity of H being out of town for a couple of days to get back to my no-wheat diet (don't know why it helps me but it does). I'm dressed in my workout clothes right now and had planned to go to the gym while D was in school, but my best friend called and asked me to watch her 3 year old for a few hours, so I will have to wait and use the treadmill here after he's gone.
But thanks for the nagging - I really need it!!! Had a bad encounter with a dressing room mirror the other day which has spurred my resolve!
How are things going with D and new school? I wish you much success on losing weight. I have gained and lost the same four or five pounds over and over. I need to lose a lot more but I seem to crave sweets and trying to resist them while restraining myself from either pursuing or getting even with H is about all I can manage. I quit smoking about two years ago. I have quit a couple of times before but H still smoked. We both quit this time. Everytime I quit I put on some more weight which did not all come off after I began smoking again. Enough about me. Good luck in your weight loss and if you have any tips please share them. I am so frustrated, I have considered bariatic surgery.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
Me, too -- just did my jumping jacks. Me, too -- not eating wheat keeps me off donuts.
Have been taking amino acid supplements regularly. (Julia Ross's "The Mood Cure" jumped out at me -- she outlines the mood/food connection well.) L-glutamine's supposed to help cravings. My mood HAS improved!
(But it could be the plum trees in blossom.)
Calling PhD Pam: Yoo hoo! How's the cowboy?
Grrrllls get-together sounds great. We could "go naturist" at the hot spring...
Okay, here I am on Friday night, D14 is having a small party, so the bass is pounding from her room next door as they all dance. S18 is at work (he'll be quitting his boxboy job soon, as it has been taking a little too much of his time - schoolwork has been okay but he's not left with time to exercise or socialize much, two things he really needs right now. He hopes to get rehired in the sunmmer though.) S13 is gone to a party, and H is flying home from a business trip.
And I am at the computer downloading S18's orchestra from our little portable digital recorder (I recorded them at their last rehearsal - S18 needs this for his senior project) and burning the songs onto CDs. Tough job for the Luddite in me, but I think I've got it now. They do sound great - it is a small community orchestra made up of high school students, only about 15 to 20 students - but they sure sound great! S18 really wants to continue playing in an orchestra when he goes to college, so that is one of our selection criteria, that the school have an orchestra that non-music majors can join (he plays Tenor and Alto sax.)
D is doing better, and tomorrow I get to go out of town overnite with H on a business jaunt - just one night, but boy, can we really use the time alone together right now!
I just finished reading a memoir called Just Checking by Emily Colas - a woman with OCD. Actually a very funny book about a very unfunny disease. I found myself wondering what happened to her since writing the book (published in 1996) but when I google her name, I just get a zillion references to the book. Anyone have any ideas about a better way to try to find current info on her?
your right ellie, i looked everywhere for new news on her, and i cant find a thing. maybe you can send a letter to the publisher to see if she has a website. she could have one and not have it listed in the search engines.
Is the copyright name the same as the author? Sometimes, you will see their real names instead of the pseudonyms. Others are incorporated entities. If it lists the same name, try calling the Los Angeles office of the publisher--they might be able to tell you if she writes under a pseudonym.
I'll think some more. Sounds like a good read. Somehow, authors who can convey a sobering subject with humor get me hooked too. I find I can cry with them a lot easier.
Have fun on your overnight!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
This has nothing to do with the questions about the author, but I found this article in my "Teaching Exceptional Children" magazine. I am sending you the link to the online article. I don't know if it will help with your questions regarding D but I will send it just in case.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
Thanks all. Luv, I will look up that article. The book was actually an object lesson in how NOT to treat someone with OCD. The basis of behavioral therapy is exposure and response prevention. This woman's H, though, got sucked into accomodating her - ie, tasting her food for her before she ate it so she could be reassured it wasn't poisoned - and this simply causes the OCD to get worse. (Part of how Howard Hughes got so bad was he had the money to hire people to accomodate all his whims and OCD desires.)
Had a great overnite trip to Phoenix with H - we do so much better when we actually have time to be with each other! No wonder all those years of me being preoccupied with the kids and him travelling alone didn't help our marriage!
I had a great lunch with jenhoco too, although we had so much to say to each other, I'm sure we could have talked for a week! (Besides DB stuff, we share similar thyroid treatment issues). Yet another beautiful, smart, insightful DBer - does make you wonder what the WASs are thinking (but of course, we all know, they AREN'T thinking ).
kml wrote ----------- This woman's H, though, got sucked into accomodating her. ---------
Guess I will have to look into this to see what part I play in my W's shopping addiction.
I too thought HH was getting worse because his paid help played along with his OCD.
BTW 2 new purses last week. W got a 10% discount. Is excited about saving $30. Lets see, 6 purses. 30 pr. shoes, now shut my mouth before I get into more trouble.
OG Lou (reply to ellie about my post on another thread)
H just shared with me the sad news that a colleague of his (a very nice man who delivered my S13) just had surgery today which revealed positive lymph nodes in his neck from a newly diagnosed malignant melanoma. This colleague just retired a month ago.
I'm very sad for this man. I am also worried about H, since this seems to be setting off his MLC/depression/fear of death and dying spiral.
(Remember the story about H and his "melanoma" - which turned out to be tree sap - while I was gone to London just before the bomb? I've always thought that was the last straw that pushed H into OW's arms - he was worried about dying from melanoma and figured he'd better "carpe diem". When I came home and "cured" him with Simple Green, he seemed oddly put out with me. Now I realize I had just taken away one of his justifications for starting the flirtation with oW.)
Anyway, both of H's parents have had malignant melanomas removed (quite early, thankfully) so H is at higher risk for a melanoma. And has just had a too-busy month of work, from which he is feeling pretty burnt out. And, the birthday he just had was his 45th - one of those round-number birthdays that seem to bother people more. So, the panicky part of him is now shouting "retire now, before it's too late!".
UGH. I just don't know how to help him with this. I know it's irrational. I try not to be too practical, and let him have his fantasies, but of course it's just his burn-out/depression speaking. And if I thought he'd be happy living a life of poverty on our current savings, I would do it - heck, I'd probably enjoy it - but I know HE would hate it.
Okay - so I have GOT to get him to take his vitamins and fish oil, and lean a little harder on him to moderate his schedule (he just says yes to too many things) - and I guess I'd better take my own advice and buy him one of those artificial dawn alarm clocks (I bought him a special lamp but he doesn't use it.)
