Hi all - well, I did a 180 for Valentine's Day this year.
A little history: My H is usually a pretty romantic guy. Has given me plenty of romantic gifts over the years. (I'm wearing his Xmas present, a gold Hawaiian bracelet that says "sweetheart" in Hawaiian). But Valentine's Day was never his "thing". It was "too commercial" or whatever.
Oh, I might get a card, or sometimes he might bring home flowers, but there was never really much put into it.
I still have an awful memory of sitting in the marriage counselor's on Valentine's Day, waiting for H who was late for our appointment, and explaining to the counselor why it was okay that H wasn't doing anything special for me for Valentine's Day - giving all of H's excuses.
Truth be told, I really wasn't that bothered by it in previous years - like I said, he was romantic in other times and places, and I thought I was being a supportive wife by not pressuring him to "perform" on Valentine's Day. And since gifts aren't really my LL, it was never about wanting "things" anyway. But that memory of that MC session 3 years ago has haunted me since.
Anyway - on Friday H saw one of those sappy jewelry ads on TV and said to me "just want to let you know that I'm not doing anything like that". Now, he said it in such a way that he didn't want me to be disappointed - and yes, his life has been horribly stressed and hectic this month, between the kid issues, the house being disassembled, and too much work catching up with him all at once.(He's also seemed more depressed to me lately - hmmmm, perhaps there's a seasonal component to his depression that hits its' bottom at Valentine's Day?)
So really I wasn't expecting anything big anyway. But I also realized that it would be just more of the same for me to stuff my own desires to get WOA on this day.
So, yesterday while we were out for a walk, I explained to him that I didn't need things or fancy dinners out, but that I DID want and expect many expressions of love, and that I deserved to be treated that way as much as the next girl! This is still a 180 for me, to speak up and ask for what I want.
