Quote: WOA - hmmm, don't know what the person who GIVES WOA is looking for?
Mr. W. admitted to me last year that although WOA is not his giving language (he's an AOS person), he was looking for something in return. Specific things, like me giving him permission to have a golf weekend or to take a day from his parenting responsibility to go fishing.
He used it as a means to barter for what he wanted, knowing I respond very well to WOA...
I would hate to think that other people would have similar motives. It ain't the healthiest way to ask for what you want, no?
Quote: Quality time - well, that's the BIG way my H wants to receive - but he mostly gives it on HIS terms. That is, he wants quality time with me doing the things HE wants to do - he wouldn't accompany me to something he wasn't interested in just to spend quality time with me - but maybe that's just him!
Ugh, no it's not just him! I've been very guilty of this myself. Especially with D10, whose LL is clearly QT. It's why one of my goals this year is to be more present with her (as well as her sister).
Ugh, this stuff is hard...
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey 
