Quote: Is H aware of this behavior pattern in himself?
Somewhat - but only in his calmer moments. Wouldn't do any good to mention it to him right now.
Quote: Hope things are going well with the kids. What did S13 finally decide about school?
S13 decided to stay in his old school. We are making an appointment with a doctor to discuss options for dealing with his attention problems. I'm not crazy about medicating him, but even my H, who is normally REALLY opposed to such things, is suggesting we give it a try. It is all more complicated by his co-existing tics and OCD - certain meds are good for one and bad for the other. The doctor he will be seeing though comes recommended by the neurologist, and treated S13s best friend, who liked him a lot.
Quote: I've seen several references to the "expressive LL" vs the "receiving LL" now. I don't remember seeing the difference covered in 5LL, particularly the idea that people with a certain expressive LL have a different receiving LL, e.g., AOS expressive seeking WOA.
It is in the book, sorry, I don't remember where. Maybe wasn't made as clear as it needs to be. Many people express themselves in languages different from what they want to receive in - I, for instance, was big on giving AOS, which I could care less about receiving. The observation that people who give AOS are often seeking WOA is mine - I've seen it frequently on the boards, as well as in my own sitch.
Can't say for sure about the other LLs - seems like those who desire PT would give it (although maybe they would hold back if they were afraid of rejection, or if their libido is low and they fear offering touch will be misinterpreted as a sexual invitation?).
Seems like those who desire gifts would give them - but I suspect there may be a few women out there with "princess" mindsets who expect the gifts like daddy gave, without returning them (because they didn't buy big gifts for daddy when they were kids?). My H was a good gift giver and desired the same.
Quality time - well, that's the BIG way my H wants to receive - but he mostly gives it on HIS terms. That is, he wants quality time with me doing the things HE wants to do - he wouldn't accompany me to something he wasn't interested in just to spend quality time with me - but maybe that's just him!
WOA - hmmm, don't know what the person who GIVES WOA is looking for?
