Ellie, I'm sorry about the lost romantic vacation in Big Sky country though it does seem like the right decision. Try to remember the strain that all this stuff can put on a marriage though--like the early years of having babies, you know. Is there anyone (grandparents?) who can stay at the house a few months from now when things are--I hope!--more settled? Someone who will enforce the clear rules and routines that will be well-established by then?