Quote: I sure hope you're not holding yourself 100% for that? I sure as heck wouldn't. You're a busy mom with a lot going on, and you trusted her. I think it's reasonable to expect you to look away once in awhile--because we both know it's not from negligence
Don't worry, Bets - I'm not beating myself up. Although she obviously abused the little bit of freedom we gave her, it really was nothing out of the ordinary - in fact, much less freedom than I enjoyed at that age (and I came from a fairly strict Catholic background). I still think it's not unreasonable to allow a high school freshman to walk to the bagel shop 2 blocks from school after school to hang out with her friends, or to attend a movie at the movie theater without a parent in attendance. Seemed like such safe, public spaces (and we live in a very safe area.)
I guess it just shows how much things have changed since my childhood - yes, it was the late 60s/ early 70s, everybody was smoking pot and doing whatnot (not me til college though, Catholic high school saved me from that) - but this darkness was not a part of it.
