Ellie: Your experience is inspiring, and I'm so glad that you summarized your journey. I'm hoping you can give me some advice on my current situation: --I'm 39 & H's 43, and 2 children (6&3) --Started to notice some change when H turned 43 in 7/04. --He bought a porche & had emotional affairs whenever he was stressed about work or life in general. --Things got really ugly around Thanksgiving when we were on a family vacation. (D word was brought up on 2 occasions) --Since returned from the family vacation, H's been sleeping in the study. ***************** I've read Michele's bk, and found it helpful. Though I noticed small acknowledgement, I'm finding it extremely difficult on occasions when H's behavior is so cold & indifferent. It's as if he's turned to be a complete different person.
I'm actively working on myself by doing yoga & ceramic classes, and I'm planning a 1-day trip in Feb., which I thought H would ordinary enjoyed. But decided against asking him, for I can't take anymore rejection.
Because my children are young, the imbalance of our family life is causing lots of insecurity. My daughter is finding ways to get what she wants by asking H whenever I told her 'no'.
I go through the valley or highs & lows, and would love advice on whether I'm on the right course.
