Yes, great re-cap, Ellie. On the career thing, of course there are advantages for you and the family to your finding work that suits you. Of course as well, it's irritating to realize that the household stuff that is a big part of your life now somehow doesn't qualify as "real" work to most people, including on some level to all of us and certainly our H's. When my H had the kids for two weeks recently I think that was a little shock; and he didn't even do half the stuff I do, like doctor appointments and coordinating schedules, playdates, etc. etc., just the basics with help from his mom, his friend, and Winter Camp.
Anyway, I keep re-reading your "what I did right/wrong" section for inspiration.
