Good morning, and THANK YOU for posting, Stubborn, Merrick, and Betsey.

I don't have anything to add at the moment - just processing. I haven't heard a peep from S. yet. He goes in to work all day today.

But this morning, as I sat here looking over my day's work, an e-mail popped in from one of my best (and oldest) friends. I post it here just to show you how VALUABLE you all are, and how understanding. Betsey, this is probably what your boss is thinking, too. Isn't this just wonderful? It's so nice to have friends you can rely on for support. ~~* So here goes:
Quote:

Hey, I need your advice:

I have this friend who is constantly having the same problem with
his/her partner over and over again. It's been going on for _years_ and
I'm not sure I can take it anymore, you know? I mean, it's not my place
to interfere or tell him/her my opinion (and it's not like him/her to
listen, either), but on one hand it seems like this partner lives under
a microscope and on the other it seems like the partner is just
completely the wrong person. Now it's up to my friend to figure this
out, but in the meantime he/she has become emotionally stagnant and
like most stagnant things, it's starting to smell and fill up with
tadpoles.

So I guess I'm not sure what to tell him/her. He/she's off soon to "go
evaluate" in some remote location, but I tell you this friend has been
out evaluating all over the damn world and it ain't brought him/her a
damn site closer to an answer. I just want to tell this friend of mine
to stop driving me crazy, but I know it's not that simple. In the
meantime, I'm thinking about changing my email address and phone
number. (Although the truth is, I think this friend of mine is actually
now talking about this situation less because he/she knows it is getting
on my nerves or he/she is tired of it, which means I'm getting subtly
expelled from my friend's life.)

So what should I tell him/her? Believe you me, I've already run through
a gamut of colloquialisms like "Sh*t or get off the pot." and "Love
doesn't always come in the form we expect. Or Want. Or can tolerate..."

Any advice would be helpful.





Jennifer

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