Quote: Jennifer does expend quite a bit of effort to meeting his needs & expectations in a healthy way.
Which is NOT to say I can't stand a LOT of improvement!
Thanks for your thoughts, H2H, and even though I get so much more of you offline, it's always great to see what the "public" you has to say. You're always digging up those pesky little questions, eh? You and that pesky SD...
You're absolutely right that these Major Scheduled Discussions are exhausting. S. often says how he believes in analyzing (and how!) and discussing, but we have to "live our relationship" as well. I couldn't agree more, and that's what we need more of, and that's what's going to fill our tanks more and get those fumes to stretch us to the next gas station, rather than leaving us stranded on the side of a lonely Kansas highway with only country and western on the radio. [ducking]
I also wholeheartedly agree that seeing a bigger picture better would alleviate the daily trauma somewhat. However, on this one issue, if I were to ask myself, "How is my morning need for connection being met over the last week/month/year?" I would have to say, no matter how you slice it, the results are abysmal. Hence, all the whining (and I knoooooow y'all are sick of hearing about it)!
Like I said in an earlier post, seeing S. so distraught on Saturday awakened me in a DUH moment. Newsflash: He cares! I'm still processing that and seeing how it affects my own behavior toward him. I think the first thing that will be manifest is a benefit of the doubt that has been lacking on my part for certain things. IOW, now that I know he cares, I can relax about that and start whining about other stuff.
