Hmmm, thought I heard my name dropped around here . . . Yes, I can vouch that S. has his fair share of expectations for Jennifer and that they often 'feel' quite restricted to his own views & ideas. AND that Jennifer does expend quite a bit of effort to meeting his needs & expectations in a healthy way. It is definitely not ALL about J. and none of S. - I think she just posts the things that are bothering her, and doesn't list the work she puts into it on a daily basis.

I am glad to hear that pizza & talk night went well and progress was made! The one thing I mentioned to you the other day that puzzles me is why it 'seems' the entire R is thrown into question over relatively minor issues. I'm not judging whether they are good/bad, right/wrong, yours/S's issues - but just that a kinda smallish thing can send you both running/hiding/crying, AND followed by the need to have a "major scheduled discussion".

I think it's great that he does want to talk so much and work things out. I'm just wondering if a teeny-tiny-little bit more of shrugging it off, or letting it go and focusing on a Love Tank Filling activity might not produce better results over the long run. Maybe it's a question of taking a longer view - rather than "are my needs being met THIS morning?" how about "How have things been this week/month overall?"

Again, I'm not saying the issues you guys have been discussing shouldn't be - I just get the sense that it is rather tiring to go through such 'seriousness' every week. I think that adopting a slightly bigger perspective might help alleviate some of that daily turmoil . . . I don't know, it's just a hunch.

Anyways, looking forward to the next update with the processed conversation. . .

-H2H