Gosh, it's always so intense over here. Good save for the birthday dinner, but be sure to listen to what S is telling you.
Okay, I know all about how S doesn't meet your needs in the morning. I don't recall the part of the conversation where you expressed concern about S's needs in the morning and found out how to fill his love bank. Or about how you expressed gratitude for efforts he did make. (Not good enough - that's deadly. I'll bet that's in the Gottman book somewhere. )
His appreciation of your nursing may help him respond better next time you're sick and ask for what you want. You're not expecting him to read your mind, are you?
Quote: I really feel empty, null, 0. There’s no love in the tank.
Wait a minute. You always come here and recount lots of good, loving interactions. Why are they not good enough? And if they are, then why is your tank getting emptied so fast? S may need to increase his deposits, but I'm afraid he's going to (correctly) think it's hopeless if you don't start graciously accepting more of his deposits AND slow down the rate that you burn through them. They're not supposed to expire after three hours, you know!
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