Merrick's right--you don't have to post all the details of your life... just like you don't have to tell the folks in your everyday life about every little thing that happens to you. That's a lot different than leaving out big pieces of a sitch that you're trying to get advice on, because then it skews the effectiveness of the advice people are able to give.
I get what you're saying. Just not sure which of these two things is bothering you.
Koshka makes a great point about learning from posting on other's threads. I've felt that experience too. I think, too, that we often have a lot more insight into DB solutions that might work for others or where they are falling down or doing marvelously than we do about our own. It's much easier when it's not about you or when you have the distance you don't often have in your own sitch.
Relax, girl, and trust your instincts. Being who you are-- faults and glories-- is so much more valuable to you and to others than any image of success or wisdom or anything else on this BB or elsewhere. We all succeed and fail at something every day.
This BB is here to help folks and there is a lot of caring support here that I've found to be really genuine. But if posting X or Y isn't helpful to you to do, if it doesn't get you where you need to go, if there is nothing you're going to gain growth-wise or advice-wise by doing that (and sometimes we need to be honest with ourselves about that) there is no obligation to do so.
