Dear Jennifer Do have to laugh at your schizophrenia - all calm wisdom and practical advice chez moi and wildcat chez toi. I think you really have to slay the greeneyed monster. It seems to me (and I know I am still dripping behind the ears) that you are making the S.M issue into something far huger than he is. The Swiss are boring so ha ha.
It is not what others say and do but how we react to it.
Chile will be fantastic so put your energy into benefitting from that experience not focusing on negatives. He will follow your lead. I spent 4 months in India with H only two months after our R started. It was heaven for both of us and created the sort of memories that will be happy no matter what. Make sure that the trip enforces you in a positive light - think this is something I got out of 5 love languages - so there is no angst connected with it.
I don't know how long youre going for but it strikes me as a bit selfish when there are people here who need you. - we seem to be lacking the tongue in cheek gremlin as well as the barf one though I do like yours.
