Well folks, the T session was a wash. Not because S. and I were arguing, but because the T was a bad, I mean really unfortunate, choice. First of all, she didn't "get" us at all - we both felt that. She kept cutting us off to ask questions, then cutting us off while we were answering them. She was really harsh, and assumed we hadn't done ANY work on our relationship - not picking up on cues like the language we were using belied at LEAST some reading on our parts. Nope - we were green, and she treated us like children.

NOT TO MENTION her little ratty DOG whined and whimpered at her feet for the entire two hours! She kept kicking him to shut him up, then 5 seconds later, he'd start whimpering again.

The good news? S. and I bonded over hating her! And we ran right to a B&N where S. bought John Gottmans' book the Seven Principles (one that was recommended by a T we didn't go to because yappy girl T called him back first). We also, in our post-mortem, bonded because S. felt she was being too harsh with me and wanted to step in and defend me, and I felt she kept cutting him off and I wanted to step in and defend him.

Anyway, we had a nice talk and lots of ML the next morning, so we are feeling closer. Last night he came over and we played Scrabble before passing out, exhausted. This morning he was sweet...

There's so much to tell, but it's all water under the bridge. Things are OK, tenuous but OK, as we hurtle toward our departure date (Tuesday!)... here's hoping we can pull it together for a FUN and RELAXING trip. I think he wants to take the book along (it has exercisees and things in it, which are perefct for keeping us out of the marathon-to-nowhere talks), so I'm just going to go with what he wants to do R-talk-wise, and keep my mouth shut otherwise.

We had an interesting talk re: morning intimacy yesterday, and he said some enlightening things about why sometimes he withdraws from giving me attention in the morning. Things about the WAY we snuggle that were closing off intimacy for him rather than opening it up.

Anyway, I'm exhausted from catching up with everybody (it never pays to be away from the BB!) so I will close.

Jennifer

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