Hi Jennifer, I read the whole thing, what a drama ! I’m so glad you were able to inquire about his paper cuts. They could have really added up!
It is unclear to me if she is actively pursuing him and disrespecting your relationship if she doesn’t know you are back together. I also think you can feed your jealous monster too much and see her grow. Your most intense fears may need to be addressed in journaling or somewhere away from him right now.
“They really “connect,” as he puts it, and we don’t. So this is really dangerous waters, especially when we are so fragile. I need also to ask him to put off the letter until we are on more solid ground.”
I don’t see you (as a couple) as all that fragile, if you can giggle with each other and hug and makeup after what used to be dramatic and awful-looking fight. Are you really that fragile? Can you act as if you aren’t (and still make sure your boundaries are kept, whatever you decide they are). I also hate that "waiting in the wings thing" that seems tohappen so often.
